My Wife’s Other Relationship

My wife and I are navigating what other relationships mean to us. I am more a one-woman type of guy where I wish to only be with my wife. My wife is authentically non-monogamous as a spiritual practice. Really.

She is OK with or without sex and only has appetite for sex 2x weekly max. But she also likes variety of deeper relationships. Non monogamous for my wife means deeper emotional connections.

For me I get a lot of pleasure out of seeing my wife be sexual with other people, but I do not like when she has an ongoing romantic and deeper connection with someone else that occurs separate from me.

My wife does not aim for hot wifing experiences. She doesn’t mind if I’m there at a tantra course with her and if I happen to see her be sexual with someone else.

But when she’s in a relationship, she’s clear that’s separate from me and she’s not interested in hot wifing in those situations.

Her lover that came over to our property a few nights ago (but not to our house) is someone I haven’t met. I’ve asked multiple times to share an experience with them, but my wife is clear that’s separate and she doesn’t want to.

It’s something we’re currently navigating in how to support each other and make sure we both get our needs and desires met.

So when he came over for dinner with his wife, the other night, I knew there would be no opportunities for a hot wifing situation. My wife just wanted me to have casual conversation to get to know her lover.

That’s not what I wanted.

It’s really quite interesting in relationships to see what each person naturally wants and desires and to see where there is overlap. Or conflict. and how to navigate that with good communication and compassion.