My wife shared lots more details with me last night about the first night she was sexual with her lover 10 months ago. She talked about how he pursued her at the tantra course and she was taken aback by how attracted she was to him in his confidence.
For example, after a few days of volunteering together at the course, at the end of the night he went for a quick kiss and she liked it.
The next night he asked to massage her and it quickly developed into a 2 hr very physically intensive sexual interaction with genital touching, fingering and lots of flow. From that night forward their connection has continued to deepen and they’ve attended 3 courses together.